How often do you say the word “try”? Or “might”? Or “maybe”?

You may well be talking yourself out of roles, jobs and opportunities.

Language is a powerful tool that shapes the way we think, perceive, and interact with the world. The words we choose have a profound impact on, well, everything that we are and how we show up in the world. It’s fascinating once you start to pay attention to it and it’s a big part of the work I do with actors.

A simple word like “try” might seem harmless and insignificant but it’s undermining your commitment. It carries a subtle implication of doubt and potential failure - we forget, every cell in our body hears the words we speak (and think!). When we say "I'll try to do this" we are creating an escape clause that allows us to abandon our commitment if things get tough. It gives us an excuse for not making it happen and can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure and inaction.

If you had a friend who said "I'll try and meet you at 5." and another friend who said "I will meet you at 5" I bet you know who to be on time for.

The Science of Language

Recent research in psychology and neuroscience has revealed the profound connection between language and our frame of mind. Our choice of words can influence everything that makes us, us: our attitudes, beliefs, and behaviours, even the way we breathe. This phenomenon is known as the "linguistic relativity principle" which suggests that the language we speak shapes our perception of reality.

The Power of Commitment

Commitment is a critical factor in being an actor: your focus, determination, and resilience rely on it. As does your ability to jump, to show up whole with every part of you. It’s one of the reasons why I take actors canyoning and jumping off huge rocks into the Irish Sea. You have to commit to the jump. You have to look forward, take a breath and say, act, think “I’m all in”.

“No! Try, not! Do or Do Not. There is no Try” ~ the wee man himself, Yoda.

The Alternative: Empowering Language

So start now and replace disempowering language with empowering words that reflect your commitment to yourself and your work, Be that person who says “Yes, I will” or “No, I can’t”, rather than “OK, I’ll try”. By doing so, you can tap into the science of language and show up as the human, the actor, the artist, the maker, the friend, the partner you know you can be. Bring clarity to your choices.

Steph x

Do not love half lovers
Do not entertain half friends
Do not indulge in works of the half talented
Do not live half a life and do not die a half death
If you choose silence, then be silent
When you speak, do so until you are finished
Do not silence yourself to say something
And do not speak to be silent
If you accept, then express it bluntly
Do not mask it
If you refuse then be clear about it
for an ambiguous refusal
is but a weak acceptance
Do not accept half a solution
Do not believe half truths
Do not dream half a dream
Do not fantasize about half hopes
Half a drink will not quench your thirst
Half a meal will not satiate your hunger
Half the way will get you no where
Half an idea will bear you no results
Your other half is not the one you love
It is you in another time yet in the same space
It is you when you are not
Half a life is a life you didn't live,
A word you have not said
A smile you postponed
A love you have not had
A friendship you did not know
To reach and not arrive
Work and not work
Attend only to be absent
What makes you a stranger to them closest to you
and they strangers to you
The half is a mere moment of inability
but you are able for you are not half a being
You are a whole that exists
to live a life not half a life

Kahlil Gibran. "Do Not Love Half Lovers"

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